Can my ex-wife get my military retirement if I remarry?

Asked by: Conner Champlin  |  Last update: April 19, 2026
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Yes, your ex-wife can generally still receive her court-awarded share of your military retirement even if you remarry, as it's treated as marital property, but remarriage does affect Survivor Benefit Plan (SBP)/other benefits like Tricare, which usually ends unless specific actions (like a court order) are in place or changes are made within a year of your new marriage. Your new spouse won't get SBP if your ex-wife already has it, and shifting it requires consent or court action within a year.

Is my ex-wife entitled to my military retirement if she remarries?

A former spouse who remarries before age 55 loses SBP eligibility; however, if the re-marriage ends in death, divorce, or annulment, eligibility is reinstated. A former spouse who remarries after age 55 does not lose eligibility.

Is my ex-wife entitled to my military pension if she remarries?

Is my ex-wife entitled to my military pension if she remarries? Remarriage can make a major difference. It will often prevent your ex from making a claim against your military pension or other assets.

How long does my ex-wife get half of my military retirement?

Your ex-wife can get half your military retirement for the rest of her life if your divorce decree awards it and you meet the "10/10 rule" (married 10 years, 10 years of service overlap) for direct payment, otherwise she gets her share from you directly, but in either case, it's usually for life unless a remarriage clause or specific court order changes it, with payments generally lasting as long as you receive retirement, often until death, though tax implications and state laws vary, so a qualified attorney is crucial. 

Will I lose my ex-husband's retirement if I remarry?

Even if your ex-spouse remarries, you are still eligible for a spousal or survivor benefit. Social Security will pay benefits to your ex- spouse, their current spouse and you, and no one's benefit will be reduced.

Benefits Military Spouses Receive After Divorce

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What is the 5 year remarry rule?

Ideally, an individual who obtained a green card through marriage should wait at least 5 years before getting remarried to a foreign national.

What benefits do I lose if I remarry?

Normally, remarriage before age 60 will stop you from collecting survivor benefits on your late spouse's work record. However, SSA makes an important exception for people who remarry later in life. General rule: If you remarry before age 60, you usually can't receive survivor benefits from a deceased spouse.

What are divorced military spouses entitled to?

Military spouses have significant rights during divorce, primarily governed by the Uniformed Services Former Spouse Protection Act (USFSPA), which can grant access to healthcare (TRICARE), commissary, exchange privileges, and a share of military retirement pay if specific criteria (like the "20/20/20 rule" for full benefits) are met. Key entitlements include health coverage, commissary/exchange access, a portion of military retirement, and potential child/spousal support, but eligibility hinges on meeting duration-of-marriage and service-length requirements, with different rules for short marriages.
 

How do I protect my military retirement in a divorce?

The Uniformed Services Former Spouse Protection Act prevents a court from treating retired pay as the property of the service member and spouse unless the court has jurisdiction over the service member based on the service member's: Residence, other than because of a military assignment.

Can an ex-wife get TRICARE?

In a divorce, the former spouse will lose eligibility for TRICARE unless they meet specific requirements for former spouses. If a surviving spouse, widow, or eligible former spouse remarries, they'll lose eligibility for TRICARE. They can retain TRICARE if they marry another uniformed service member.

What is the remarriage trap?

If you remarry before you have secured a court-approved financial settlement, or at least issued a financial application, you may unwittingly shut the door on important claims that could otherwise have provided long-term security. This is what lawyers refer to as the “remarriage trap.”

Does a spouse lose VA benefits if she remarries?

Therefore, a surviving spouse who remarries is no longer eligible to receive VA benefits. Exceptions: ​ If a surviving spouse remarries after age 55, he/she may retain eligibility for certain VA benefits under Public Law (PL) 107-330.

Do I lose my late husband's pension if I remarry?

A person who reaches pension age as a widow / widower is entitled to a pension derived from his/her late spouse's contributions as described on this site. A subsequent (post-retirement) marriage does not take away this entitlement.

What benefits do ex wives of veterans get?

A variety of benefits are available to former spouses of servicemembers: TRICARE; access to exchanges, bases, and MWR facilities; retired pay; Survivor Benefit Plan (SBP) pay; and Social Security. Here's what you need to know about qualifications for these benefits.

How long does a military spouse have to be married to get benefits?

To get full, long-term military benefits after a divorce, unremarried former spouses usually need to meet the "20/20/20 Rule": married 20 years, the service member had 20 years of qualifying service, and the marriage overlapped that service by 20 years. Shorter overlaps (like 15 years) can grant transitional benefits, but benefits cease if the service member didn't meet the full service requirement or if the overlap is less than 15 years, though some survivor benefits (like a portion of retirement pay) might still apply. 

Will I lose my TRICARE benefits if I remarry?

Yes. You must: Report your marriage to the DMDC/DEERS Support Office; and.

Who loses more financially in a divorce?

Statistically, women generally lose more financially in a divorce, experiencing sharper drops in household income, higher poverty risk, and increased struggles with housing and childcare, often due to historical gender pay gaps and taking on more childcare roles; however, the financially dependent spouse (often the lower-earning partner) bears the biggest burden, regardless of gender, facing challenges rebuilding independence after career breaks, while men also see a significant drop in living standards, but usually recover better.
 

Will my ex-wife get half of my pension?

Ask the court to finalise the agreement or decide for you

If you cannot agree, or it's not safe for you to deal with your ex-partner directly, you can ask a court to decide how your pensions should be split. The court will usually review your finances and tell you what they believe is fair.

How much of my military retirement will my ex-wife get?

The spouse shall receive 50% of the marital share of the service member's disposable retired pay. The marital share is the fraction, the numerator is ____ months of marriage during the service member's creditable military service, divided by the total number of months of the member's creditable military service.

Can my wife take my military retirement in a divorce?

California is a community property state, which means that any asset acquired or earned during marriage is presumptively divided equally at the time of a divorce. Examples of assets include real property, bank accounts, vehicles, and retirement accounts, including military pensions.

How much of my retirement is my ex-wife entitled to?

Social Security benefits for a divorced spouse are calculated based on the ex-spouse's earnings record or their own earnings record, depending on which one is higher. You're entitled to half of your ex's benefits if you start collecting once you reach your full retirement age (FRA).

Can I get USAA if I'm divorced?

Can I get USAA insurance even if I divorced my military spouse? Yes, as long as you are not remarried and you became a USAA member while still married to your ex-spouse.

Will I lose my ex-husband's Social Security if I remarry?

Generally, if you remarry, you stop receiving Social Security benefits on your ex-husband's record, but you may become eligible again if that new marriage ends (death, divorce, or annulment) and you meet other requirements, like being age 60 (or 50 if disabled) and your first marriage lasted at least 10 years. Remarriage to the same person can sometimes preserve benefits if it happens quickly after the divorce, and special rules apply if your ex-spouse is deceased, allowing you to collect survivor benefits if you're over 60 (or 50 if disabled). 

Do military spouses lose benefits if they remarry?

Spouses who remarry lose access to TRICARE unless they marry another servicemember or retiree. If there are dependents, they are eligible for military health care until they age out or otherwise lose eligibility. Even if the remarriage ends in death or divorce, the surviving spouse cannot regain their TRICARE benefit.

Will I lose my husband's pension if I remarry?

A widow(er) is eligible to receive benefits if she or he is at least age 60. If a widow(er) remarries before age 60, she or he forfeits the benefit and, therefore, faces a marriage penalty. Under current law, there is no penalty if the remarriage occurs at 60 years of age or later.